Self-discipline is a skill that most autistic children have trouble acquiring. This includes not only inappropriate upsurges but also habits that can be potentially dangerous, such as being aggressive towards others or causing harm to themselves, such as hitting their heads against walls. To prevent these and other behaviors, one simple technique parents and educators can use to control autistic tendencies is self-management. Giving the child power over him- or herself is often the key to keeping control over violent situations and may be a positive step towards learning other behaviors as well.
Self-management works because the child is no longer fully controlled by others. By teaching self-management during specific times of day, such as while the child is at school or therapy, the child will be more likely to continue to practicing self-control during all times of the day. The key is to;
- Implement a program in which he or she monitors his or her own behavior and activities.
- Begin with short amounts of time, and continue to monitor the child from a more passive standpoint.
- Every ten to fifteen minutes, remind the child that he or she is in control and needs to monitor and be aware of good and bad behaviors.
This exercise is a form of self-evaluation. When a child is in control, he or she may think more closely about certain behaviors in the past and in the present. It is very useful to set clear goals with the child from time to time to help improve his/her condition as an autistic patient; for example, an afternoon with no aggression towards others or a day at school with no self-injury. Every fifteen minutes ask the child how he or she is doing. Is the goal being met? If the answer is no, perhaps the child is not ready for self-management, or maybe the goals are too hard to attain. It should be the responsibility of you the parent to make sure that the goals are easy to reach first, and then move the child towards more difficult goals in the future. When a child is successful at self-monitoring, he or she will have a more positive attitude towards the experience.
Obviously, an important part of self-management is a reward system. Have the child come up with his or her own reward, depending on interest. Reinforcement will make these good behaviors stick inside the mind of your child, and the goals would be attainable. It should dawn on parents to regularly monitor and reward these special children to help them gain full consciousness of their daily activities. Choose simple rewards to start, such as;
- Smiley faces for every goal met
- Sad faces for every goal not met, and
- Work up to a larger goal, such as a special activity or new toy when a certain amount of smiley faces has been attained.
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These types of programs do not develop overnight, so it is important that you and the child have enough time to devote to a self-management experience. By bolstering good behavior with rewards, as determined by the child instead of by an adult, he or she will be more likely to carry this on even when not participating in the program. If your autistic child is mature enough, this could be a good treatment program to try.